ABOUT Nicole Crump, LCSW-R
Guiding you from loneliness and self-doubt to unbreakable self-worth
Hello, I’m Nicole Crump, LCSW-R A Licensed Psychotherapist (NYS) and Relationship Coach with 23+ years of experience helping individuals and couples build secure, meaningful, and fulfilling emotional connections that last. As the creator of the Emotional Connection Method, my career is dedicated to guiding people toward an essential, liberating truth: You are enough, and the unwavering security you seek can only be built from within.
My Story: The Journey to Understanding Connection
The sudden death of my father from a massive heart attack when I was 16 years old deeply influenced my emotional blueprint. Experiencing a loss that big, that young, my subconscious mind went into overdrive, protecting me from emotions I wasn't equipped to handle. In that moment, the world felt scary and uncertain, and I immediately went into survival mode. Unknowingly, I began to disassociate because the pain and grief were overwhelming.
Years later, in my clinical work, I discovered attachment therapy, which had a profound impact on my personal life. I realized that being disconnected from my feelings was contributing to my anxiety and pervasive loneliness. I saw that the emotional wall I’d built to protect myself was also preventing me from achieving genuine connection in all my relationships. I feared that finding my own voice and doing the necessary inner work would push people away, because they were not used to the real me. In truth, it was not knowing the “real me” and my anxiety that left me immobilized. I did not just distrust others; I did not trust me because of the years of betraying myself.
“I had a huge, paradoxical fear of being seen, even though I consciously craved it. The deeper truth was this: I was terrified of learning who I was outside of the helper role.”
My inner world was chaotic. Hiding from myself and burying my emotions had become a painful yet familiar default. I felt angry, hurt, and anxious because I was truly invisible; even to myself!
The pain of losing my father was unbearable, and emotionally disconnecting was the only way I knew how to survive. But in surviving that loss, I lost myself.
My journey through emotional rebuilding wasn't easy, but it led to the realization that true connection starts with radical self-acceptance. That hard won wisdom; that self-love is the foundation of all healthy bonds is the bedrock of the Emotional Connection Method.
My Approach: The Emotional Connection Method
The 3-Step Emotional Connection Method
Deconstruct the Wounds: We begin by exploring the origins of your attachment wounds and relationship trauma. Here, we identify the negative patterns and core beliefs that your inner critic uses to hold you back, bringing subconscious barriers to light.
Connect Within: This is where we focus on radical self-acceptance. You will learn practical tools to regulate your nervous system, challenge self-doubt, and dismantle the cycles of shame and loneliness. We build profound self-awareness and unwavering self-worth that becomes the secure foundation for all future growth.
Create Secure Bonds: Once connected to yourself, you learn to connect deeply with others. We focus on enhancing communication, setting clear boundaries, and practicing vulnerability without fear. This final step allows you to cultivate true intimacy and finally build relationships that are resilient, honest, and fulfilling.
Through our work together, I will guide you to:
✅ Heal attachment wounds and relationship trauma.
✅ Silence the Inner Critic and dismantle the toxic cycles of shame.
✅ Develop profound self-awareness and unwavering self-worth.
✅ Cultivate true intimacy and confidence in expressing your authentic self.
✅ Break free from negative patterns of conflict and finally build relationships you can count on.
Take the First Step
I created this method because I know the deep, resilient strength that comes from rebuilding. You don't have to navigate this journey alone. If you’re ready to transform your relationships and claim your inherent worth, I am here to guide you.